Byron Katie is an American speaker and author known for her method of self-inquiry called “The Work.” This process involves questioning one’s thoughts to identify and release the beliefs that cause suffering. Katie’s teachings emphasize that our thoughts about reality, rather than reality itself, are the primary sources of our pain.
Her quotes often reflect themes of acceptance, self-awareness, and the transformative power of understanding one’s mind.
Through her work, Katie encourages individuals to examine their thinking critically and embrace a peaceful, reality-based perspective on life.
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Insanity is arguing with reality.
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I stopped waiting for the world to give me what I wanted; I started giving it to myself.
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Our job is unconditional love. The job of everyone else in our life is to push our buttons.
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If you realized how beautiful you are, you would fall at your own feet.
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It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine.
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Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you.
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If you want real control, drop the illusion of control; let life have you. It does anyway. You’re just telling yourself the story of how it doesn’t.
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When you discover that all happiness is inside you, the wanting and needing are over, and life gets very exciting.
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The whole world is simply my story, projected back to me on the screen of my own perception. All of it.
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Don’t be careful. You could hurt yourself.
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To argue with reality is to argue with God.
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It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.
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If I had a prayer, it would be this: “God, spare me from the desire for love, approval, or appreciation. Amen.
We’re all looking for love, in our confusion, until we find our way back to the realization that love is what we already are.
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No one has ever been able to control his thinking, although people may tell the story of how they have. I don’t let go of my thoughts-I meet them with understanding. Then they let go of me.
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When you become a lover of what is, the war is over.
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We are never really in control. We just think we are when things happen to be going our way.
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When the creative mind is unleashed and understands its true nature, it’s unlimited. There’s nothing you cannot do.
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As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there” – as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering – the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.
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You’ve never reacted to someone else. You project meaning onto nothing. And you react to the meaning you’ve projected.
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Reality is always kinder than your thinking.
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Discomfort is the call to set yourself free.
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A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.
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I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment.
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When you realize that every stressful moment you experience is a gift that points you to your own freedom, life becomes very kind.
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Everyone is a mirror image of yourself-your own thinking coming back to you.
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Defense is the first act of war.
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If you don’t like your world, question your thoughts about it.”
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Nothing belongs to me. Everything comes and goes. Serenity is an open door.
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Peace doesn’t require two people; it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there.
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A thought is harmless unless we believe it.
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Fear is always the result of an unquestioned past imagined as a future.
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The world is what you believe it to be, and it changes as you change.
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If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life.
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Forgiveness is just another name for freedom.
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If you argue against reality you will suffer.
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There is no security for those who seek it outside of themselves.
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Until the mind is open, the heart stays closed. The open mind is the key to the open heart.
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The last story: God is everything, God is good.
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The only thing you fear is the unreality that you yourself have invented.
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I am a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality.
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Since the past is unreal and the future is unreal, all your thoughts are about nothing.
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Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.
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The Ego’s job is to kill everything but itself.
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The only difference between heaven and hell is believing a thought.
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Your most intimate relationship is the one you have with your thoughts.
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Spare yourself from seeking love, approval, or appreciation-from anyone. And watch what happens in reality, just for fun.
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Spare yourself from seeking love, approval, or appreciation-from anyone. And watch what happens in reality, just for fun.
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Nothing ever goes wrong in life.
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Who would you be without the thought that happiness depends on someone else?
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You would be amazed at who people are once you know yourself.
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Place only your kindest thoughts on everything you experience today. Meet yourself.
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The miracle of love comes to you in the presence of the uninterpreted moment. If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life.
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You’re never given more pain than you can handle. You never, ever get more than you can take.
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There’s no way that a clear mind can live an unhappy life.
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The mind usually says, “I know, I know, I know.” But the “don’t-know mind” is where wisdom lives.
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What we really believe is what we manifest. What we believe, we see.
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The world is nothing but my perception of it. I see only through myself. I hear only through the filter of my story.
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When you do The Work, you see who you are by seeing who you think other people are. Eventually you come to see that everything outside you is a reflection of your own thinking. You are the storyteller, the projector of all stories, and the world is the projected image of your thoughts.
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We say to others only what we need to hear.
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Lack of understanding is always painful.
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Every mind deserves to be free. When the mind is free, that’s the end of suffering.
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You can’t change what you haven’t realized yet. Once you realize what you were asleep to, the change happens on its own.
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I didn’t fight or shame my thoughts, I questioned them, and they stopped shaming me.
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I have had the privilege of losing everything.
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You can only see what you believe – nothing else is possible.
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If you think the cause of your problem is ‘out there,’ you’ll try to solve it from the outside. Take the shortcut: solve it from within.
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If you knew how important you are, you would fragment into a billion pieces and just be light.
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The mind’s job is to validate what it thinks.
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After you’ve been doing inquiry for a while, if you have the thought “She doesn’t love me,” you just get the immediate turnaround with a smile: “Oh, I’m not loving myself in this moment.
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Each time your mind changes your whole world is changed.
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Thoughts are just what is. They appear. They’re innocent. They’re not personal.
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It’s good that it hurts. Pain is the signal that you’re confused, that you’re in a lie.”
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Gratitude is what we are without a story.
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When a thought hurts, that’s the signal that it isn’t true.
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Isn’t it marvelous to discover that you’re the one you’ve been waiting for? That you are your own freedom?
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When you’re focused outside and believe that your problem is caused by someone else, rather than by your attachment to the story you’re believing in the moment, then you are your own victim, and the situation appears to be hopeless.
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What you’re believing in the moment creates your suffering or your happiness.
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Fear has only two causes: the thought of losing what you have or the thought of not getting what you want.
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I realized that it’s insane to oppose it. When I argue with reality, I lose-but only 100% of the time. How do I know that the wind should blow? It’s blowing!
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Would you rather be right or free?
Everything that happens is God’s will. When you realize that, you’re home free.
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Money is not my business; my thinking is my business. I don’t have any other business.
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Low self-esteem is not possible when you understand the nature of everything. Depression is not possible. The universe is absolutely friendly.
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When you believe that your problem is caused by someone or something else, you become your own victim.
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Until you can see everything in the world as your friend, your work is not done.
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Seeking love keeps you from the awareness that you already have it – that you are it.
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This is the time. This is the place. This is the vastness. Right here is paradise. Always. Always.
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Being present means living without control and always having your needs met.
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We don’t hear what someone said; we imagine what they meant.
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You are what exists before all stories.
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The worst loss you’ve ever experienced is the greatest gift you can have.
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The nature of mind is that it loves everything once it loves itself, just as it opposes everything when it opposes itself.
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Self-realization is not complete until it lives in action.
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Stress never feels as natural as peace does.
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The world is as you perceive it to be. For me, clarity is a word for beauty. It’s what I am. And when I’m clear, I see only beauty. Nothing else is possible.
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You are your only hope, because we’re not changing until you do. Our job is to keep coming at you, as hard as we can, with everything that angers, upsets, or repulses you, until you understand. We love you that much, whether we’re aware of it or not. The whole world is about you.
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If I want something, I go get it. Anything that I believe will stop me, I question.
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It’s not possible to have a problem without believing a prior thought. To notice this simple truth is the beginning of peace.
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An unquestioned mind is the world of suffering.
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The most important relationship is the mind’s relationship with itself. In other words, the ultimate – and, really, the only – relationship you have is the relationship with your own thoughts.
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There is nothing that isn’t true if you believe it; and nothing is true, believe it or not.
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Your parents are your projection-nothing more.
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Never be fooled into believing that there is one speck out of order.
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The world is your perception of it. Inside and outside always match – they’re reflections of each other. The world is a mirror image of your mind.
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The ego is terrified of the truth. And the truth is that the ego doesn’t exist.
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Pay close attention to the particular thoughts you use to deprive yourself of happiness.
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To exclude anything that appears in your universe is not love. Love joins with everything. It doesn’t exclude the monster. It doesn’t avoid the nightmare – it looks forward to it.
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That’s where the fear comes from-from your uninvestigated thoughts.
My experience is that the teachers we need most are the people we’re living with right now.
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The ability to understand the cause of your own suffering gives you the ability to understand ours.
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It’s only our story that keeps us from knowing that we always have everything we need.
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The world will be at war as long as the mind is at war with itself. If we can’t find peace within ourselves, where is the hope for peace in the world?
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As you inquire into issues and turn judgments around, you come to see that every perceived problem appearing “out there” is really nothing more than a misperception within your own thinking.
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Bottom line is, if someone says something about me and it upsets me, it’s true.
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I can find only three kinds of business in the Universe: mine, yours, and God’s.
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Suffering over things that have happened to us is nothing more than an argument with the past.
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What is perfect health? The unraveling of all imagined states of mind.
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How do you react when you think you need people’s love? Do you become a slave for their approval?
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Behold your world! The judgments you believe just created it.
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When you realize that suffering and discomfort are the call to inquiry, you may actually begin to look forward to uncomfortable feelings. You may even experience them as friends coming to show you what you have not yet investigated thoroughly enough.
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There is no mistake in nature.
I love what I think, and I’m never tempted to believe it. Thoughts are like the wind or the leaves on the trees or the raindrops falling. They’re not personal, they don’t belong to us, they just come and go. When they’re met with understanding, they’re friends.
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If you want to clean up the environment, start with your mind. It starts there!
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Who would you be if you didn’t believe this lie?
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Everyone in your life is a figment of your imagination – even you.
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There is no mistake in the universe. It’s not possible to have the concept “mistake” unless you’re comparing what is with what isn’t. Without the story in your mind, it’s all perfect. No mistake.
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When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.
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Our parents, our children, our spouses, and our friends will continue to press every button we have, until we realize what it is that we don’t want to know about ourselves, yet. They will point us to our freedom every time.
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Life is the constant opportunity to wake up.
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When they attack you and you notice that you love them with all your heart, your Work is done.
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When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result.
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To make amends means to right the perceived wrong. What I call “living amends” is more far-reaching. It applies not only to one particular incident but to all future incidents of that kind.
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All I have is all I need and all I need is all I have in this moment.
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Every moment a gift: are you unwrapping yours now, and now, and now?
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Everyone wants peace, inside and outside, and we would all have it if we knew how. Now we know how. It begins with you.
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When you act like a teacher, it’s usually because you’re afraid to be the student.
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Nothing comes ahead of its time, and nothing ever happened that didn’t need to happen.
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We do not mature through age. We mature in awareness.
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God’s will and your will are the same, whether you notice it or not.
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Nothing terrible has ever happened except in our thinking. Reality is always good, even in situations that seem like nightmares. The story we tell is the only nightmare that we have lived.
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The story we tell is the only nightmare that we have lived.
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It’s difficult to seek other people’s love. It’s deadly. In seeking it you lose what is genuine. This is the prison we create for ourselves as we seek what we already have.
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It makes sense that no one else can cause you pain. That’s your job.
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Once the mind is met with understanding, it can always find its way home.
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Arguing with reality is like trying to teach a cat to bark.
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Mind is everything. There’s nothing that it’s not.
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Realizing that people should lie when they do makes me a little more open-minded, a little more tolerant, when my child or my partner lies.
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You’re either attaching to your thoughts or inquiring. There’s no other choice.
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To understand our own thinking is to understand all thinking.
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Life is so simple: We walk; we sit; we lie horizontal. That’s about it. Everything else is a story about what’s going on while we’re doing it.
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The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.
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It’s not the darkness that people fear; it’s what they imagine into the darkness.
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It’s not what happens in life that bothers us. It’s what we’re believing about it that bothers us.
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A dishonest yes is a no to yourself.
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We suffer only until we realize that we can’t know anything.
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Everyone is doing his job. No one is more valuable than another. The things in the world that we think are so terrible are actually great teachers. There’s no mistake, and there’s nothing lacking. We’re always going to get what we need, not what we think we need. Then we come to see that what we need is not only what we have, it’s what we want. Then we come to want only what is. That way we always succeed, whatever happens.
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You can never make yourself believe that you’re lovable, however hard you try, because when the chips are down what you really believe rises to the surface of the mind to replace what you want to believe.
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It’s a wonderful world when you have what you want at all times.
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Identify your painful thought, question it, and wake yourself up. No one else can.
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Maybe everything we’ve ever done has been for love.
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Forgiveness is discovering that what you thought happened, didn’t.
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You cannot hurt me. Only I can do that.
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When safety is our priority, we live our lives being very, very careful, and we wind up having no lives.
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Happiness is a clear mind. A clear and sane mind knows how to live, how to work, what emails to send, what phone calls to make, and what to do to create what it wants without fear.
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The person who finds peace inside and lives it, is the one who teaches what true peace is.
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The best way of leading people is to let them find their own way.
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There is no peace in the world until you find peace within yourself in this moment.
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Judge your neighbor, write it down. Ask four questions, turn it around.
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Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.
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To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve problems for you.
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No one can give you freedom but you.
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When you think that someone or something other than yourself needs to change, you’re mentally out of your business.
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Any stressful thought that you have about the planet, for example, shows you where you are stuck, where your energy is being exhausted in not fully meeting life as it is, without condition.
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And that goes not only for mothers but for every human being you haven’t forgiven yet. Every human being, every cat, dog, tree, thing – to be separate from anyone or anything goes against your heart. The only time those people or things are not okay is when you believe they’re not.
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When we question our thoughts, we see that the craziness was never in the world, but in us.
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I don’t let go of concepts -I meet them with understanding. Then they let go of me.
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When we believe in our thoughts, when we tell ourselves a story, we suffer. My husband doesn’t respect me. I should be thinner. Those are stories. When there’s no story, there’s no suffering.
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I saw that we’re all doing the best we can. This is how a lifetime of humility begins.
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I have never experienced a stressful feeling that wasn’t caused by attaching to an untrue thought. Behind every uncomfortable feeling, there’s a thought that isn’t true for us.
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There is no thought or situation that you can’t put up against inquiry. Every thought, every person, every apparent problem is here for the sake of your freedom.
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You can learn more about Byron’s personal life and The Work: The Work of Byron Katie
